In this post, I'd try to list some ways that you can use to overcome the fear of failure.
1. Distinguish real versus imagined fears
Asking what’s the worst thing that can happen is not a magic cure. It’s a first step towards finding clarity. You need to stop worrying and focus on the root cause.
Write down all the potential scenarios. Avoid exaggerating — the goals is to focus on probable situations, not to test your creativity. Categorize the answers in real and imagined fears. Discard the latter. This exercise requires practice until you build confidence.
Master your fears, or you’ll become their servant.
3. Experience is about learning, not just achieving
If it’s hard to define what success looks like, what’s the point of defining failure then? Life is not perfect — there’s no point in trying to anticipate the future correctly.
When you focus on the outcome — what you want to achieve — you get distracted from playing your best game.
Winning is an outcome, focus on playing at your best.
There’s no such a thing as a perfect decision. A right decision made at the wrong time won’t do you any good either. Minimize risk by making decisions in small doses now. You can always course correct.
4. Standing still is more dangerous
Fear is not the enemy; paralysis is. The world will continue its natural course even if you don’t do anything. That’s the most hazardous part of standing still — everyone around you will move on as you keep rehashing things over and over.
Fear is a signal for you to wake up. What is the universe trying to tell you?
The world keeps changing even if you stay put. Failing to adapt can be more dangerous than experimenting with something new.
“First ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst.” — Dale Carnegie
1. Distinguish real versus imagined fears
Asking what’s the worst thing that can happen is not a magic cure. It’s a first step towards finding clarity. You need to stop worrying and focus on the root cause.
Write down all the potential scenarios. Avoid exaggerating — the goals is to focus on probable situations, not to test your creativity. Categorize the answers in real and imagined fears. Discard the latter. This exercise requires practice until you build confidence.
Master your fears, or you’ll become their servant.
Bertrand Russell said: “Worry is a form of fear, and all forms of fear produce fatigue. The proper course with every kind of fear is to think about it rationally and calmly, but with great concentration, until it has been completely familiar.”
2. Don’t idealize life
If we expect life to be perfect, we will always be afraid of leaving our cocoon.
A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology demonstrated that when we have a too optimistic vision of our future, we become less energized and accomplish less also. That’s because we are not prepared to face struggles.
Life is not perfect; it’s not bad either — happiness requires embracing balance.
The same research has shown that successful people visualize a positive outcome, but also acknowledge future obstacles — the real ones, not the imagined ones.
If we expect life to be perfect, we will always be afraid of leaving our cocoon.
A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology demonstrated that when we have a too optimistic vision of our future, we become less energized and accomplish less also. That’s because we are not prepared to face struggles.
Life is not perfect; it’s not bad either — happiness requires embracing balance.
The same research has shown that successful people visualize a positive outcome, but also acknowledge future obstacles — the real ones, not the imagined ones.
3. Experience is about learning, not just achieving
If it’s hard to define what success looks like, what’s the point of defining failure then? Life is not perfect — there’s no point in trying to anticipate the future correctly.
When you focus on the outcome — what you want to achieve — you get distracted from playing your best game.
Winning is an outcome, focus on playing at your best.
There’s no such a thing as a perfect decision. A right decision made at the wrong time won’t do you any good either. Minimize risk by making decisions in small doses now. You can always course correct.
4. Standing still is more dangerous
Fear is not the enemy; paralysis is. The world will continue its natural course even if you don’t do anything. That’s the most hazardous part of standing still — everyone around you will move on as you keep rehashing things over and over.
Fear is a signal for you to wake up. What is the universe trying to tell you?
The world keeps changing even if you stay put. Failing to adapt can be more dangerous than experimenting with something new.
5. Defeat is temporary
Nothing lasts forever. As F. Scott Fitzgerald said:“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.”
Mistakes are learning opportunities. Life requires a trial and error approach. We don’t come to this world with instructions manuals; we create our own as we live.
You battle the fear of failure every day.
Nothing lasts forever. As F. Scott Fitzgerald said:“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.”
Mistakes are learning opportunities. Life requires a trial and error approach. We don’t come to this world with instructions manuals; we create our own as we live.
You battle the fear of failure every day.
Thanks for reading.
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